There are several people around, who can not deny to others for their work. In other words, it does not matter if they have time or not for that. However, their nature to say ‘yes’ to everyone usually create unfavorable circumstances for them only. After said ‘yes’ to everyone they find themselves stuck in the middle of mess. And as a result they could not complete neither their own work, nor others. In conclusion, they feel emotional burden, that’s not good for their personal development over all.
In order to empower yourself, for your personal development, you need to create boundaries for yourself to develop healthy relationships with all in life. It is very difficult how to develop healthy relationships with all, now days.
Let’s talk about those 4 boundaries, everyone need to draw for leading a balance, and happy life.
Emotional Boundaries
So, What is Emotional Boundaries? When you protect yourself from other’s feelings, may be toxic, non-toxic is called emotional boundaries. Sometimes you feel drain because of other’s feelings. You find yourself hurt, in pain, because other’s attack you emotionally.
When you draw emotional boundaries for yourself, It means none can easily hurt you emotionally. When other’s people thoughts, mood, actions, reaction, words starts affect you mentally. Then it is a right time to draw an emotional boundaries to protect yourself entirely. Then only you can be happy.
Time Boundaries
There are many people, who say yes to everyone for their work. Learn to say ‘no’. If your work is affecting by doing their work then you should be straight forward to them.
Time Boundaries protect you from overextended yourself. You can not stop people from demanding your time, however, you can bound yourself to giving it to them, if you have no time.
Fix your work time if you are working. If you won’t fix your work time, people will use you. And you will fell exhaust and tired. You can not be productive if you won’t fix time boundaries for yourself.
Topic Boundaries
You are the one who will choose which topic is comfortable for you to discuss with all, or which is not. There are a lot of topics flows around. However, it Doesn’t mean that you have knowledge about all of them.
Likewise, if you are not comfortable to discuss about politics, then it’s ok. Tell others clearly, I am, not ok with it.
Besides, there are many people who poke their nose in everyone’s matter. They want to know every close information that is very personal to you.
Draw a Topic Boundaries, if you do not want to share something with all. After all you are not here, to entertain everyone all the time. Be comfortable, and share with all what is necessary for them.
Physical Boundaries
Have you faced situation, when other’s borrow your stuffs and give you back not in good condition. Or they take your stuffs even without asking you.
If you faced these situations then it is good for you to draw a physical boundaries for you. Learn to tell them clearly, if you don’t like to share some of your favorite clothes, your washed car, or anything that is don’t want to share.
Once, you learn how to amplify these 4 boundaries in your life, your life will be easy for you. And people will treat you in that way you want to be treated.
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